Hi Katee
Thank you for sharing this, it sounds like a tough situation. Your concern for your step-father is evident, wanting to make sure he is well cared for.
Likely in such a situation additional help is necessary. There are normally health care team members specifically designated to assist with situations as you described, often they are social workers or psychosocial specialists. A connection with these team members can often be made through the local cancer care or oncology clinic involved in your step-fathers care or through a health care provider directly involved in his care.
They are often great listeners and should be able to provide your family with some support and direction with this situation.
Wishing you well,
-Ogechi (CVH Discussion Forum Moderator)